Being vulnerable. To me, that is what Sara is talking about here. I would like to add the word energetic to this quote – excited failing. We are not talking about the kind of failure where your job has run you down, and you start doing terrible work because you don’t care. That is not energetic failure. We are talking about the type of failure where you have had 5 great new ideas that are really thinking outside the box. They all fail, but you gained energy from taking the time to be creative. You try one more time.
When we are kids, we are constantly trying new things, asking questions, and excitedly taking in the world just as we see it with no fears of looking silly. And then we change. And it seems that we can’t always pinpoint the specific moment when we became worried about being vulnerable. After reading Brene Brown’s book Daring Greatly, I realized even more so how being vulnerable is a key component in enjoying and getting the most out of your life.
I recently wrote a letter to an acquaintance thanking her for insight on a particular situation. I had talked with her several times, but we were not particularly close. Even though she had inspired me, I almost did not send it. I thought, maybe this is too personal, too many details to share, maybe I should just say “thanks”- and leave it at that. What if she thinks _________? Many words were inserted into that blank space. I decided to send it anyway. It felt genuine and I listened to that. She called me back with many more questions than I had ever imagined. It had energized her, and in turn, she wanted to offer even more insight and ideas. A new friendship was made.
This is what life is about. How can you connect with others differently, challenge yourself in new ways, see things in a new light? Sometimes the biggest reward is in how you feel when you are being vulnerable, even failing – but failing energetically!
Start small or start big, but get started… what dreams or ideas have you been ignoring?
How are you willing to energetically fail this week?
-Gillian
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Gillian Amaro, LPC-S
I believe that we, as individuals, can create joy, love, and purpose in our lives through authentic connection. I love empowering women, couples & teens to feel comfortable with who they are & gain insight about how they connect with others. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor & Supervisor and offer individual, family & couples sessions, as well as group therapy. My passion for counseling & healthy communication includes stepping out of the office to facilitate workshops and CEU trainings.
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